Trust is the core issue in a relationship.
And it can be regarded in three respects:
The trust you have in yourself;
How much do you honestly love your partner?
How bad do you want this relationship to succeed?
How far are you ready to go to make it work?
The trust you have in your partner;
How much do you believe him/her to feel the same way about you?
How bad do you think he/she wants this relationship?
How far do you reckon he/she is willing to go?
And the trust you have in the relationship itself;
How long do you think it’s going to survive?
How intimate do you believe it can get?
How happy do you deem it will make you?
Trust is the base.
Everything else is built up upon it.
As the size of a building dictates the dimensions of its foundation, so can we estimate the level of trust needed for any certain depth of a relation.
And without that, it’s a matter of time before any relation crumbles to ruins.
And even if it lasts, it won’t be anything worthwhile.
Friday, May 30, 2008
" Romantic Architecture - The Façade "
Now that you are done with your building, you may begin to work on its outward show.
What color do you prefer your walls?
Or maybe you like them wallpapered?
Would you rather have a wooden floor or a marble one?
Do you want the roof to be tile or shingle?
Though it comes last, the importance of the façade is no less than the rest.
Because it’s what you see most of any building.
It’s the source of both your first impression and the persistent feeling you get from the whole thing.
Fun is the façade of every relationship.
How much do you enjoy being with your partner?
Would you rather spend your leisure time with your partner or with any other of your friends, relatives or acquaintances?
Do you like to do everything with your partner? (simple things like: going to a party or for a walk, going shopping or to the movies, taking a trip or simply staying home and watching TV…)
Or you prefer others for some certain activities?
It does matter how fun your relation is with your partner.
Fun is the joy of your life.
And of the life you and your partner share together.
What color do you prefer your walls?
Or maybe you like them wallpapered?
Would you rather have a wooden floor or a marble one?
Do you want the roof to be tile or shingle?
Though it comes last, the importance of the façade is no less than the rest.
Because it’s what you see most of any building.
It’s the source of both your first impression and the persistent feeling you get from the whole thing.
Fun is the façade of every relationship.
How much do you enjoy being with your partner?
Would you rather spend your leisure time with your partner or with any other of your friends, relatives or acquaintances?
Do you like to do everything with your partner? (simple things like: going to a party or for a walk, going shopping or to the movies, taking a trip or simply staying home and watching TV…)
Or you prefer others for some certain activities?
It does matter how fun your relation is with your partner.
Fun is the joy of your life.
And of the life you and your partner share together.
" Romantic Architecture - The Body "
After you have put down your foundations, you may start with the real thing.
Where do you want your walls and where should the windows go?
This comes from the plan you have in mind for your building.
What style do you want it in?
How many rooms do you want and where? And how big?
Will there be a terrace, porch or any balconies?
These details, in turn, depend on the purpose you have assumed for your building.
Do you want it for residence, business, entertainment…?
Affinity is the body of any relationship.
The framework of any relation is built upon the personal outlines which each of the partners have for their own lives.
You should know for yourself what you want from life in the first place.
That dictates the long term plans; which in turn give you an idea about the steps you have to take in every stage of life.
Now, if you don’t know about your own values, ideals, interests, dislikes, passions, repulsions… (things that in short, constitute the meaning of life for you); then one might say that you have no idea about the kind of life you want to live.
In that case, how can you possibly choose a suitable life partner?
And if you do know about these, you should look for identical, similar or at least compatible characteristics in your partner.
The more affinity there is in the part of individuals, the more affined will their bond turn out to be.
In other words, the better a match you are, the more is your chance for a comfortable, easy and successful relationship.
Where do you want your walls and where should the windows go?
This comes from the plan you have in mind for your building.
What style do you want it in?
How many rooms do you want and where? And how big?
Will there be a terrace, porch or any balconies?
These details, in turn, depend on the purpose you have assumed for your building.
Do you want it for residence, business, entertainment…?
Affinity is the body of any relationship.
The framework of any relation is built upon the personal outlines which each of the partners have for their own lives.
You should know for yourself what you want from life in the first place.
That dictates the long term plans; which in turn give you an idea about the steps you have to take in every stage of life.
Now, if you don’t know about your own values, ideals, interests, dislikes, passions, repulsions… (things that in short, constitute the meaning of life for you); then one might say that you have no idea about the kind of life you want to live.
In that case, how can you possibly choose a suitable life partner?
And if you do know about these, you should look for identical, similar or at least compatible characteristics in your partner.
The more affinity there is in the part of individuals, the more affined will their bond turn out to be.
In other words, the better a match you are, the more is your chance for a comfortable, easy and successful relationship.
" Romantic Architecture "
When you want to think about a house, what is the first thing that comes to your mind?
How it looks.
The rooms, the hall, the backyard, the view…
But when you want to build it, what is the first thing you start with?
The foundations.
And then you go after the walls, brick by brick.
And what comes last, is the veneer. The face.
Every relationship is somewhat similar to buildings.
It has:
A foundation: TRUST.
A body: AFFINITY.
And a façade: FUN.
How it looks.
The rooms, the hall, the backyard, the view…
But when you want to build it, what is the first thing you start with?
The foundations.
And then you go after the walls, brick by brick.
And what comes last, is the veneer. The face.
Every relationship is somewhat similar to buildings.
It has:
A foundation: TRUST.
A body: AFFINITY.
And a façade: FUN.
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